You’re in post-breakup mode and you’re like, “When am I not going to feel like this anymore, because it sucks?” Everyone has gone through this period in their life. Rest assured, this situation is as frustrating as each of us experiences it differently. In this article, we will share with you some theories to better manage your situation and come out of it stronger (e) and give you the necessary time to grieve before turning the page definitively.
The classic theory:
We’ve all heard this theory that to find out how long it will take for your broken heart to heal, halve the length of your relationship, which is GREAT if you’ve only been dating for a few weeks and AMAZING if you’ve been dating for a few years. Some people confirm this theory, but add that meeting someone new (who you really like) speeds up the process. Obviously.
This really applies to a very long-term relationship, where you live together: A 2009 study showed that most divorcees take a year and a half to recover from their divorce. Or, to be more precise, 17 months and 26 days is the average time it takes someone who has been married (or living together) before they feel ready to move on.
According to a recent study by online dating site eharmony, it takes an average person 18 months to recover from a breakup. The study, which looked at 2,000 people who had recently been through a breakup, found that the first three months are the hardest. 66% of respondents said they felt depressed, anxious or stressed during this time. However, things gradually improve after the three months. 40% of respondents said they felt better after six months, and 72% after one year. So if you’re going through a tough breakup, take heart: things will get better eventually. And who knows? Maybe in 18 months you’ll be ready to start a new relationship.
The comforting theory:
According to a recent study, the answer is about 11 weeks. The study, conducted by researchers at the University of Colorado at Boulder, interviewed 516 people who had experienced a breakup in the past six months. Participants were asked to rate their level of distress on a scale of 1 to 100 each day for those six months. On average, participants reported feeling distressed for about 11 weeks after the breakup.
However, the data varied widely, with some people saying they felt back to normal within weeks and others saying it took them much longer to recover. The study also found that people who experienced more “negative affect” during the breakup — in other words, those who felt more anger, sadness and anxiety — took longer to break up. recover than others. So if you’re having a hard time getting over your ex, don’t worry, you’re not alone.
A few ways to speed up the recovery process.
Don’t dwell on the past.
It’s easy to dwell on happy memories and what could have been, but dwelling on the past will only make it harder to move on. Instead, focus on the present and the future.
Switch off the contact.
Staying in touch with your ex will only prolong the heartache. Delete his number from your phone and unfollow him on social media. If you see him/her in person, be polite but keep the conversation brief.
If you constantly remember your ex, it will be difficult for you to move on. Go through your stuff and get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex. This includes photos, gifts, and anything of sentimental value.
Keeping yourself busy will help you take your mind off your ex and allow you to move on. Find a new hobby or spend more time with friends and family.
Ask for professional help.
If you’re having trouble moving on, seek help from a therapist or counselor who can help you deal with the breakup in a healthy way.